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There Is Life After Love
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Falling out of love is not the end of the world, no matter how much it feels like it at the time. Going through a break up can be a very confusing, painful and traumatic experience.
But there is hope.
There is life after love.
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How To Keep Your Man - Be Supportive
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Be Supportive
Your guy needs to know that you are supportive. It is something a man really relies on and thrives on within a relationship.
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Bad Boys
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Men and Women alike have been perplexed through time by the magnetism of the "Bad Boy". As a good guy, you wonder how you can possibly compete with this cocky archetype, and as a woman you wonder why you would put yourself in such a no-win situation. As with all human relations, the combination of natural instinct and societal factors can create a complex and confusing
circuitry through which we try to find that often elusive "perfect relationship". Many would argue that we experience relationships in order to teach us things about ourselves and if that's the case, what can we learn from this age-old attraction?
A typical "Bad Boy" is someone who:
1. Is very confident, even cocky
2. Puts himself and his feelings first
3. Keeps women at an emotional distance and often thinks of them as disposable
4. Is not reliable
5. Knows exactly what he's doing when it comes to women
So how could a woman be attracted to such a person? The answer is a complex one. Science tells us that women are often attracted to a dominant (confident, powerful) man's scent because they sense it is an indicator of good genes. Society tells us that dominance is equated through power, whether it be through money, social position, or specific to our purposes: an emotional and mental dominance of people.
For instance, if a woman is starting out with low self-esteem, it wouldn't be uncommon for her to be attracted to a "bad boy" in the hopes of changing him, and making him love her. The worse she is treated, the harder she works to turn the situation around. She feels like if she could just make it work, her own self-value would be that much greater. The bad boy loves the attention, but he does not respect the kind of woman who gives him everything and then some; he sees her as weak and so they are locked into a dysfunctional power struggle where they continue feeding off each other.
Bad boys also capture women's imaginations. We are often intrigued by people we could never imagine being ourselves. People who are opposites to ourselves often inject a level of excitement
into our lives, and to a woman this can be a real turn-on. Common reasons why women are attracted to "Bad Boys" are:
1. It is never boring
2. There is a strong passion and sexual chemistry
3. They are strong and self-assured and make the woman feel safe
What can we do to stop perpetuation the Bad Boy attraction?
People move at their own speed, and we all need to make our own mistakes before improving ourselves. If you're a woman and find yourself consistently attracted to the Bad Boy type, ask yourself these questions:
1. Does a Bad Boy make you happy or are you just used to having unhappy relationships?
2. Do you have or have you ever had a strong male in your life who treats women the way they should be treated?
3. Write down on paper the qualities you would like to see in a potential male partner. How close are these to what you've had in the past?
The answer lies within - how you feel about yourself is directly reflected in the quality and health of the relationships you experience, and don't forget we teach people how to treat us.
If you're a man and feel you are constantly competing with Bad Boys, don't give up hope. Why not take the positive aspects of a Bad Boy (confidence, independence) and work to enhance
these qualities in yourself. Remember you can't change people and if a woman is not attracted to you for the wrong reasons, then she's not the one for you. Not until she figures it out anyway...
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Spending Quality Time With Your Partner
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Every relationship needs quality time in order for the union to survive and flourish.
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How To Save A Marriage: 9 Effective Ways To Keep A Marriage
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How To Save A Marriage: 9 Effective Ways To Keep A Marriage
We know for a fact that any marriage--no matter how bad it is right now--can not only be salvaged, but both husband and wife can be very deeply in love again.
It doesn't matter what you feel about each other right now. Anger. Bitterness. Rage. Hatred. Or nothing at all (numbness) because you don't care enough to feel anything any more.
Our experience with thousands upon thousands of couples teaches us that there is a way--a methodology--that will turn your marriage around, stop the hurt, and rekindle the love that you had for each other back in the beginning.
Even if you can't remember loving each other in the beginning. Or think you never did.
If you still feel ‘love’ for the other person, there might still be a chance to save your marriage. There are several ways that you can do to help you in your struggle. If you don’t want to waste any more time, consider the following:
1. Ours, Yours and Mine – even if you’re a couple, each of you should have an inner as well as an outer life. This is very important; in fact, it is just as important as building intimacy and togetherness. Nobody’s perfect and as a couple, you must respect your differences because this can make your relationship stronger.
2. Always spend time together – this doesn’t mean that you should spend every spare time together. Married life entails a lot of responsibilities like working, attending to the children’s needs, cleaning, car pooling, and a lot more. But remember that all these things will be of no importance if your marriage doesn’t work. You must learn to arrange at least a few hours every week to do things together. You can arrange for regular vacations. You can date once a week and you shouldn’t break this routine.
3. Care for yourself well – even if you’re already married, you should care for yourself as well. You must be conscious of your physical appearance and well-being. This way, you will feel good about yourself and your special someone will love to look at you.
4. The importance of communication – couples ends up in misunderstandings because they forget the value of communication. If you want your married life to survive and overcome all the obstacles in life, you must have efficient communication skills.
5. Try to criticize gently – some people judge others harshly, even their loved ones. The next time you want to criticize your husband/wife, you must do it gently. Do it in a manner that you would want your spouse to criticize you.
6. The children – when a couple already has a child or children, the relationship’s dynamics is changed. But having a kid should not destroy your marriage’s sanctity. Your children will encounter problems that you as a couple should resolve, but don’t hesitate to ask help from others if you really need it.
7. Courting – even if you’re already married for some time now, you shouldn’t forget to court your special someone. Give your spouse unexpected compliments, gifts, and even a warm embrace. Do you remember the times when you were still sweethearts? Do the things that you used to do and you will remain in love.
8. Romance – life’s realities can sometimes be harsh and if you want to your relationship to survive, you must never forget about romance.
9. Endearment – you must spell out all the basics of your married relationship. Some surprises often lead to troubles so it would be best to have terms when it comes to endearment.
Marriage is also considered as a contract and it needs to be renewed. Remember your anniversary and this is just the right time to set things right.
What Else Can I do?
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